workshop: Criar uma caixa de primeiros socorros das emoções

Um workshop ideal ara conseguir aumentar a conta poupança de emoções prazerosas lá em casa. Para isto é necessário reconhecer formas de o fazer, identificar o que nos emociona e gerir situações de crise do dia a dia.

Objectivos:

1.Reconhecer as situações que nos levam a sentir em crise;
2.Identificar as crenças e emoções que desenvolvemos nessas situações;
3.Aprender alguns pensos rápidos emocionais ajustados às nossas condição de vida;

Os benefícios:

criar uma caixa de primeiros socorros das emoções é conseguir identificar e alterar hábitos que trazem  mais bem estar e qualidade de vida, ter mais auto-conhecimento, melhorar a relação com os outros e interacções com mundo. Tal como sabemos o que fazer para desinfectar um corte físico ou que dieta adotar se tivermos colesterol, a proposta é fazer o mesmo em relação às emoções introduzindo com isto mais linguagem emocional no dia de dia e com quem nos rodeia.

Preços remetem para a Associação Behuman que apoia as futuras gerações a serem emocionalmente mais competentes

1.Preços do workshop simples;
2.Workshop +livro “caixa de primeiros socorros das emoções”
3.Workshop +livro “caixa de primeiros socorros das emoções” + jogo “jenga Emocionária”

DATAS DAS PRÓXIMAS EDIÇÕES em Lisboa:

24 OUTUBRO, 2019

28 NOVEMBRO, 2019

19 DEZEMBRO, 2019

Para efetivar inscrição e informações: mpalha@behuman.org.pt

Sobre a Formadora:

Maria Palha, psicóloga clínica de formação com mais de 13anos a criar programas de saúde emocional em contextos de crise humanitária como Siria, Libia, Ucrânia, India, Brasil,Moçambique,Zimbabué, Serra Leoa, São tome e princípe, Portugal, entre outros. Autora do Livro “uma caixa de primeiros Socorros das emoções – inclui um guia para criar o seu kit sos das emoções”, fundadora da Associação BeHuman

(www.behuman.org.pt | instagram: @kids_behuman)

Livro: Emocionar, Um Kit de Saúde Emocional para Famílias

Sinopse:

Preocupada em entender como será crescer no mundo do século xxi, com os registos de mal-estar emocional e psicológico vivido em Portugal e com os milhões de deslocados por guerras ou alterações climáticas, Maria Palha quis perceber como podemos apoiar as futuras gerações a quebrarem estes ciclos de sofrimento e a serem emocionalmente mais saudáveis na sua relação consigo mesmas, com os outros e com o planeta. Para isso, entrevistou centenas de especialistas que assistem diariamente a estes movimentos: crianças dos 5 aos 12 anos, oriundas de 13 países diferentes, recolhendo as suas preocupações e sugestões do que todos devemos fazer para reforçar e levar a cabo o que nos define e distingue enquanto espécie: as emoções.

Com a ajuda destas crianças, foi possível criar este kit de saúde emocional que dá voz aos temas que mais as inquietam, ajudando miúdos e graúdos a reflectir sobre o tipo de sociedade que estamos a construir para as futuras gerações. Aliando técnicas lúdicas e pedagógicas a uma série de práticas usadas por famílias de diferentes culturas, este kit ajuda-nos a ser os adultos de que as crianças precisam e a apoiar o crescimento de gerações com maior auto-conhecimento, com melhores relações com os outros e com interacções mais significativas com o planeta.

Lançamento oficial: Dia 31 de Outubro, às 18h30 na Livraria Travessa, Lisboa. Com apresentação da Jornalista Conceição Lino

PV: 17,70Euros

Pode comprar online com autografo da Autora: Mpalha@behuman.org.pt

Pode Criar o seu Kit saúde emocional: Livro + Jenga Emocionária para jogar com a Familia, por apenas 52 Euros.

Psicoterapia online

Fazer Psicoterapia é entrar numa viagem de descoberta do seu mundo. Se sente que precisa melhorar a sua saúde mental, bem-estar emocional ou qualidade de vida e estiver a procura de um psicólogo, convido-o a experimentar a psicoterapia on-line (usando o Skype). As sessões de psicoterapia on-line destinam-se principalmente a pessoas que se sentem mais seguras em sua casa para iniciar um processo terapêutico e que não podem viajar para o consultório do psicólogo.

A psicoterapia on-line pode parecer estranha, mas com o avançar das sessões, a estranheza diminuí dando lugar a uma verdadeira relação terapêutica. Ao longo do processo terapêutico, focamos na saúde e aumento da funcionalidade, fortalecendo a auto-estima, desenvolvendo os recursos, para que no futuro, consiga ter ferramentas sem a ajuda terapêutica.  A psicoterapia é útil em casos de: Mudanças(casamentos, divórcios, trabalho ou desemprego…perda de ente querido, Saúde) Ansiedade Fobia social Depressão Problemas nas relações Distúrbios alimentares Baixa auto estima Crise existêncial – perca de sentido da vida O que você pode esperar de uma psicoterapia: Mudança na maneira de pensar, de perspectiva; Maior capacidade de identificar e lidar com medos (ansiedade); Aumento de auto-estima; mais contacto com as emoções e necessidades; Diferentes formas de comunicação; Melhor resolução de conflitos; Mais tranquilidade e paz de espírito; Mais auto-consciência e qualidade das relações pessoais. As sessões online acontecem através de uma das app (skype, face time, wapp) que permita ter video e som. E durante 60min temos a sessão.

Os processos terapêuticos podem ir de 1 a 6 meses, com sessões semanais, dependendo dos casos e da evolução das situações. Ansiedade e depressão são casos que requerem mais tempo, um ano, mas em qualquer uma das situações a mudanças são possíveis e o importante é pedir ajuda o quanto antes.

Sobre a Psicóloga Maria Palha:

Psicóloga Clínica e psicoterapêuta, autora do Livro “Uma Caixa de Primeiros Socorros das Emoções”, fundadora da Associação BeHuman. Com muitos anos de experiência profissional na área de intervenção na crise e intervenção clínica com adultos. Especializada em E.M.D.R., usa abordagens cognitivo comportamentais e dinâmicas, terapia focada nas emoções. Os preços e pagamentos: O valor das sessões é de 50euros/sessão e há um desconto de 10% quando o pagamento de 4 sessões. Os pagamento é feito por transferência bancária ou MBway, no dia anterior à sessão marcada enviando o comprovativo.

Game: Emotionary Jenga

The Emotionary Jenga is a result of Kids Project and proposed by children from around the world. Its a group game for families, friends, adults and children (+ 6 years old).
one at a time, participants should take out some piece, follow the instruction and put it again on the top of the tour.
The chalenge comes with ballance, because you shoul not let the tour fall. Tha same challenge we have towards our emotions, its essencial to learn how to mantain the ballance without falling!!

The game instructions encourage participants to talk about what they feel, challenges to improve relationships and to have meaningfull interactions with the planet.

You just need to request it and play it on!

Kids@Minca: How to Promote sense of Freedom in the olders and Spontaneity on the youngers

Coguis are an Amerindian tribe living in northern Sierra Nevada in Colombia. There are about 10,000 people in this region. They speak their own language, customs and ideas. Their practices are based on the belief that the Earth is a living being and that Humanity has two brothers: the big brothers (themselves) and the smaller brothers (us, the common people). We are described as “stunted children” who must learn to live Humanity.

Evan with no scientific basis, this was the reason I was dreaming to arrive in Sierra Nevada and interview Cogui children. I wanted to ask them for their tips on how to improve our interaction with the Earth. I just didn´t plan that Minca and Macondo could change my plans.

In the last before I spoke about the importance of connection with nature to the Family emotional health. Today I focus on freedom.

In fact, freedom began to gain ground before reaching Minca. When I “stumbled” with Macondo.

Macondo is a village with about 300 people in the city of Aracataca, where Gabriel Garcia Marquez lived his childhood and used as the setting for the novel “One Hundred Years of Solitude”.

The novel begins with the isolation and destruction of this village, and the Buendia family and its generations are the ones to take responsibility in the prosperous development of the region and its personal liberation. Coincidentally (or not) at this point I already suspected that freedom and solitude could go hand in hand, but it was in Minca that I realized the depth of the issue.

Minca is a place of free souls. I felt it immediately when I arrived. Maybe Pablo’s violoncello helped, but the location at 600 meters high, the rustic houses in tighty streets and the about 300 species of birds that fly over Santa Marta certainly contributed.

 

Pablo is Uruguayan of 28 years old. About 6 years ago he left the country of origin arguing “I just want to play the cello and make more music.” And it was in the streets of Minca, sitted on the folding wooden bench (which he made 10 stops before) that he played. I saw him playing with his curly hair and eyes on the horizon. He shared that playing an Italian instrument on an American continent was rare, and this was the reason he wanted to know more, better techniques and inspire people through music. Only when his family (tired of seeing him without encouragement), encouraged him, that he had risked. He began slowly, shaping his desire, transforming doubts into strengths and insecurities into music. During this process he was afraid of not being accepted by the community, with doubts if he would be good enough, with the feeling of being alone, without people of reference around them. Assuming his difference brought him a big sense of freedom, and only with the support of his family, the first social institution he met, was possible.

Pablo showed me that freedom, begins with the family and can walk along with loneliness when it is not well “cooked”.

Being free depends not only on the obvious, externally (prison …), but above all, internally processes (Fears, social pressures … etc) hence spontaneity is one of the main mediators between what is inside and what comes outside.

He hinted that being afraid to fail is part of the process, but it is not the end of it.

And it was in this reflexion that he took me to know Sónia and her project.

 

Sónia is the creator of a hippy community. She decided to create it years before because she believed that freedom comes from knowing how to live with others (only in this way we manage to practice spontaneity) and to manage our own time: “before having this community I had a motorcycle business that I had to have a lot of time discipline “I was always “stuck” on the business. And because it served the public, it could rarely be spontaneous and creative. I earned more and more money, but I didn´t have time to be with whom I loved, I had no time for leisure, and I hardly knew who I was. I felt trapped. So I created a community where I could be myself, more genuine, spontaneous and above all, manage my own time.”

Sónia has 15 different nationalities, more than 15 people: among musicians, artists and nature lovers, each one takes on a role in the group, manages their time and the contribution they want to make. Today that community is known for promoting the best jam sessions, coffee cultures and art exhibitions in the region.

Minca and Macondo, Pablo and Sónia made a significant contribution to today´s topic: freedom.  But it was children’s answer, in the various corners of the world, who showed me the depth:

The question asked was: “What do you hate the most that adults do?”

The answers:

In Colombia: “When they tell me that I have to do things I do not like and I do not understand why.” Emília, 7 years old.

In Brazil: “When I talk and nobody hears me!” Bruno, 6 years old.

In Portugal: “When I’m forced to eat things I do not like … I hate!” Rafael, 7 years

In São Tomé and Príncipe: “When they rape people.” Daisy, 9 years old.

In Sierra Leone: “When they force me to do things and they do not hear that I’m doing my own thing” Bill, 8 years old.

The contribution of young people has shown me that freedom plays a different role depending on phases of human development and “the feeling of losing control of one’s own life” is a focus of malaise that transcends all ages.

In fact, if we look at philosophy, Espinoza argues that to be free is to act according to the very essence, with its nature. Other prespectives focus on the autonomy and spontaneity of the subject. Nelson Mandela adds the dimension of “others.”

According to the happiness report in 2012, one of the most important components in the sense of well-being and personal fulfillment of the Human Being is the feeling of Freedom. The human freedom index of this report shows that the sense of freedom is divided into three areas: “freedom of expression, choice, management of relations”, but time is a transversal role to all of them.

 

At the children´s level, freedom is enhanced by spontaneity, self-esteem, and coping with failure. And since family is the first social institution that children know, it fundamental that these competences are stimulated here.

At the adult level and management of family dynamics, no doubt that time is a matter of disharmony.

Disharmony because if some are faster than others, others can not wait; some because they have more time than others for “their things” and there are still those who do not feel they have time for anything, and that is injurious.

In summary, when it comes to the Freedom in the family dinamic, I approach two dimensions: time management in adults and the development of spontaneity in children.

Studies indicate that mothers feel more responsibility in child upbringing, and they are the ones who feel they have no time for themselves and their things. The studies also show that the Parental Happiness Hole (satisfaction with parenting) changes with the life stage of the family and child dynamics. A family with little external support will be more affected by the illness of a small one, than another with the support, for example.

To reduce this gap, several countries are creating responses. In Denmark, for example, one of the answers was the “grandparent loan” program where older people enroll to adopt a family and support their logistical issues. After all, if a couple can do a good job, imagine 4 couples. In Japan they adopted shirin-yoku, “a forest bath”. The Japanese proposal is that from time to time, families get lost in nature and use their senses, according to them, the experience will strengthen ties and sense of belonging, ability to risk and throw. In Bogota, Colombia, the measure adopted was the “closure of the streets on Sundays” so that everyone can enjoy free time with the family using the cycle route.

According to Meik Viking, the Portuguese have much satisfaction with parenting. In Portugal there is a balance between working time, leisure time and the costs of child support services.

This is why I leave some tips for adults to free time, which will bring more sense of freedom in the daily routine and then some tips to train future adults more spontaneous, less fear of loneliness, more able to express their opinions and feel more and better on your skin, freer.

For Parents:

  1. Have a physical practice that includes socialization. Will make 2 in one. You can be with a friend and include exercise in your life.
  2. Make the most of the downtime. Two minutes here, five minutes there, can be used to do small things. I always use to do some research. But Meik Wiking uses it with an application to learn Spanish.
  3. If you travel by public transport, take the opportunity to read a book
  4. Cook more than you need. Have more food made, allow you to maintain a healthy diet and have free day endings.
  5. Focus on and avoid what Meik Wiking calls “blood sucks of time” such as social networking or mobile games. By avoiding them, you will spend more time communicating with your family, improving your interactions with everyone, and consequently your sense of belonging.

 

To include in the education of kids and promote their sense of freedom:

  1. Include the practice of acts of kindness: A ritual of visiting an institution and progressively adding actions such as helping those who need it, giving a compliment to someone, talking to a shy or isolated person.
  2. Promote empathy: “what will the person X or Y feel now?” Can be made in the game.
  3. Greet the people we meet with every day.
  4. Smile for strangers
  5. Promote trust in the child. Yes, I know it is not always easy, we tend to think that we know what is best for the little ones, so listen patiently, show curiosity and convey encouragement so that he / she can do things for you and develop your sense of “To be unique” without social pressures.

6. Show unconditional support for the child’s choices. One of the biggest issues of freedom, which can lead to the feeling of loneliness and the lack of support and understanding of parents.